24# From Pizza Hut to Millionaire Coach: How High School Dropout Suzy Ashworth Mastered the Mindset Strategies You Can Use to Join the 1% of 7-Figure Female Entrepreneurs
In this episode, host Sharn sits down with Suzy Ashworth—a single mother of three, high school dropout, and Sunday Times bestselling author of Infinite Receiving.
Suzy is a serial entrepreneur and success coach who has generated over £9 million in revenue since 2020. She’s passionate about helping corporate women trade their 9–5 salaries for purposeful careers as ICF-accredited life coaches through her certification program, Quantum Leap Your Life and Business.
Over the past 12 years, Suzy has guided thousands of coaches to achieve their first £10K months—and supported many in scaling to seven figures—by blending simple, smart strategies with the energetics of business and high-ticket selling.
In this conversation, she shares her remarkable journey, the mindset shifts that shaped her success, and her mission to help others build businesses that truly change lives.
Suzy’s work has been featured in Forbes, Grazia, and the BBC. Prepare to be inspired by her story, her insights, and her unwavering belief in what’s possible when you embrace your unique gifts and take bold action.
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Transcript
I have been in the online industry for 12 fricking years this year, which makes me an OG indeed, and there's been many, many iterations of what I. Do. But I suppose now I'm most well known for being a Sunday Times bestselling author of the book, infinite Receiving, and I help people follow their dreams and what that looks like most specifically now is I have a certification called Quantum Leap, your Life in Business.
It is ICF accredited and we help people become life coaches and I love it.
[:Which is just, you know, just such an incredible achievement.
[: [: [: [: [: [: [:I remember that. Do you know what? I had a dream about my old boss at Pizza Hut like a couple of nights ago. It was really bizarre. I woke up with a lot more empathy for her. So I can, I can talk a little bit about that as well later on, but that was, that was weird. Yeah. Pizza Hut is where it all began.
[:Interesting is that you've been able to overcome so much. Mm-hmm. you know, from a point of view of being a woman of color. Yeah. You know, from a point of view of, you know, you know, back, maybe back then just believing that you were potentially just worthy of being just a waitress to your journey now, which is just incredible.
So just take us back and like what were like the real. Changes and shifts that you had to do to become the version of yourself that you are today?
[:And I think in the beginning I say, you either jump or the universe bushes you. And in the beginning for me, it was the universe pushing me. I would be presented with situations in my life that I would either do or die. And when those situations came, thank goodness I was able to step up into what was needed instead of being pulled down.
And I suppose the first instance, like big instance of when I'm conscious and I'm older, was when my foster mother passed away when I was 19 years old. And that was the biggest tragedy. And the biggest gift because at 19 years old, she was the only person who I had really called mum since I was three months.
You know, that's how long I was with her for, and it forced me to look at life and at 19. Hopefully most kids, young adults, you are not thinking about mortality. You're thinking about having a tequila and going out with your mates and all of that stuff. I was forced to look at life and death, and I was forced to look at myself because at the point that she passed away, I was probably a typical 19-year-old.
And you know, now bringing up teenagers, I know that there is a wide spectrum, but at that point I was very self orientated. I, yeah, I was very selfish. My whole world revolved around me. I thought that I knew everything and I really took. Took her for granted and how that manifested is when she was sick and ill, I wasn't there for her.
I only went to see her in the hospital once, and it's not because I didn't necessarily care, but it was so difficult seeing her in the state that she was in. You know, she just kept saying, I've gotta see you get married. I've gotta see you get married. I've gotta see you get married. She looked so weak, so frail, like death was close, and I didn't have the tools or the capacity in my heart to be able to be there for her.
Again, I was just thinking about me and how I felt, and so when then she passed and I knew that I wasn't ever gonna see her again. That made me look at who am I being? Mm-hmm. Is this the human being that I want to be for the rest of my life? The people that I love the most in the world don't know. And so that forced me into, yeah, the, the journey that I've been on for the last.
Yeah. 25 years of personal development, personal growth, and yeah, trying without sounding like a cliche, but to be a better human being.
[:Mm-hmm. What can they start to do? To collapse those timelines to Quantum Leap.
[:I just knew what I didn't want. Mm. I knew that there was more out there, but I didn't know what, I didn't know how, I didn't know if somebody had said, who do you need to be to get out of Pizza Hut? I would've been like, the fuck are you talking about? Like, that's kind of quite a coachy way of saying it, but I think it is important to say that I think that sometimes we are held back from quantum leaps because we feel like we need to know the end up.
end destination. Mm-hmm. And actually, if you are somebody who's like, I know I want to change, but I don't know how. First start with asking yourself, what don't I like? Now, I did not like working in Pizza Hut. I did not like the fact that I could not get a promotion to save my life. Do you know what I mean?
It's so wild. Now, looking back, I'm like, you were not destined to be a manager of Pizza Hut. It is okay. But at the time I was like, you know what is wrong with me? Why can't I. Why can't I be the shift supervisor? And you know, I wasn't displaying the characteristics of a Pizza Hut shift supervisor at that point.
She didn't see my potential, my then boss. And so they overlooked me. But my main point is, is that I knew that I didn't wanna work there. And so that was the setting of things in motion. And then somebody said, oh, I go to IHA every summer. Do you wanna come? I am like, I mean the furthest I'd been at that point was Loret DeMar and it wasn't kicking it.
Do you know what I mean? So when somebody said, I go to IBI there every summer and I work there, I was like, Okay. Now for my friends who I, some of them I'm still friends with today, that was wild because the person who told me that, they went, now they were one removed. So for our network, you were not going off and going and doing a ski seasonal that that wasn't our life.
So me making that decision then that I didn't know it at the time, but that was a leap. And I chose that leap because I knew that I did not want to, and this is the thing about my mom passing. My father passed when I was 23 mm. They were amazing people and they loved myself and my sister like nobody's business, but I do not believe that they died happy.
They died young. My mom's 64 and my dad, I think he was, 63 off the top of my head. I might've got that the wrong way around, but,I don't believe that they died feeling fulfilled. I. And so in part of that contemplation, who do I wanna be? And how do I wanna live my life? I wanna be a good person and I want to live this life so that by the time I get to the end, I've squeezed the juice out of it.
And I wasn't using quite that language at that time, but that was the thought. So when somebody said, you wanna come to iha, it was like, why not? Why not me? Hmm. And so I went, and then in iha, I met people who did IHA in the summer and India in the winter, and that that was another, that was a leap in perspective.
And so for people who are like, Hmm, what do I do? First of all, if you don't know what it is that you want. Identify what you don't want and start moving away from what you do not want. If somebody had said to me 12 years ago, when you leave the Guardian, this is where you will have earned multiple millions of pounds.
You would've helped thousands of people around the world. You would've had a, you know, a bestselling book. I would've said, don't be ridiculous because. It would've been ridiculous. But moving away, I knew I didn't wanna work at The Guardian. I knew I didn't wanna work at Pizza Hut, so just taking the step away from those things.
That opened up doors. It opened up doors, which put me in environments where I would meet people who would have a completely different perspective and a completely different take on life. And. Some of those perspectives and takes on life were interesting. Mm. And what I intuitively would do is be like, well, if they can do it, like what?
What are they doing that I can't do?
[:It's just getting on that path. Yeah. And once you, the path you get on the path like you did, yeah. When you went to yha, then the path reveals the things that you need to know. Yes. Itself. A hundred percent. It's like you'll meet people, you are, you keep seeing the same thing, or maybe a course will come up, a mentor will come up, or you speak to someone at an event.
You know, and that, and then acting on that is so important. Yes. Because the universe, I believe, always gives you the signs, the signals, the synchronicities. Yeah. But your job is to actually act on it
[: [:So. With you. Susie, did you ever have like negative thoughts like on the journey? How did you navigate that?
[:You know, part of my growing up I was very promiscuous, and that was because I was looking for love in all of the wrong places. Mm. I didn't appreciate the love that I did have, and I was. Very focused on the love that I hadn't got from my biological parents and the desire to be accepted that the, the desire to be enough.
And so that meant that I would, you know, look at me, look at me, you know, what can I give you? And so that was, that was really big. And I think that. That's just been a very slow burn. People often say to me like, how do you feel worthy? And what I realized is that worthy isn't a feeling. It is a decision. It is a decision to know that I am worthy enough to be in this podcast studio and to be sharing my story.
It is a decision to know that I am worthy of charging however much I wanna charge for my services. And once you've made the decision to the point that you then make, you then have to act in alignment. And so. You have to be very self-aware. You have to notice all of the times where you are acting out of alignment, and that's all I'm doing.
Even today, I had to start making decisions in alignment with squeezing the juice out of life. And when I was younger, that looked like I'm not gonna work in a job for longer than three months if I am not happy. And I kept that promise from the pro. The moment I made that promise, I kept it. I'm so proud of that.
And then in entrepreneurship, it was like, I wanna be able to say to my son, you can do anything that you want. Okay. I need to become the person who is living the life where he can see that I am doing everything that I desire Now. The idea of that and the reality of that when you've got three kids and you're co-parenting and life is slightly different.
but I'm so again, I am so proud of the life that I lead and model for my kids because it is one that has been of great freedom.
[:Yeah. And you just really act in alignment. Yeah. You walk your talk. So what, on a practical level, what does acting in alignment mean for you? Mm-hmm. Especially when I think back to, you know, when you were. Wanted to hit the seven figure mark. Yeah. And beyond what were some of like the key, I don't wanna say strategic things.
Yeah. Because for me I think it's always 90% mindset. Mm-hmm. what were some of the things that you had to do from a mind mindset and an alignment perspective for you to have those quantum leaps?
[: And in:It felt way too big for me. So that's the first thing. You have to feel comfortable owning your dreams. Because if you do not feel comfortable, you will not make decisions that are a match for earning seven figures. I wasn't doing it. People would say like, what's your goal? And I'd be like, seven. Pardon?
Say what now? Like, it was like, who do I think I am? So I had to first of all get into a place where I'm like, no, I am worthy of earning seven figures and that is my goal. And I'll tell a little story about when I was in Columbia on a retreat because from an energetic standpoint, I made my first seven figures on that retreat because I decided, mm, I was surrounded by a group of seven, multiple, seven figure and eight figure entrepreneurs.
And I went in with the attitude of what. Are they gonna be able to show me like, what do they know that I don't know about making money? That was the attitude that I went in with. Now, what was beautiful is that that space had been curated in such a way that everybody had made their money in different ways.
I. And that was probably the biggest gift. 'cause often in our world, people are like, the way you do it is to have this funnel. The way you do it is to do this event. The way you do it is to do it, my blueprint. And so I was presented with like 15 people that are all making money, serious money in different ways, which told me that there is no one way.
You have to find your way. That was very powerful. The second thing that I did is I've spent a lifetime being like, what's what's different about me or feeling different, feeling isolated, feeling on the outside. And when I went into that space, instead of.coming from old patterning, I started looking for, what's the similarities?
Mm. And I picked anything that I could grab my, oh, they're married. I'm married. Oh, they've got kids. I've got kids. Oh, they get annoyed about that. Oh, I get annoyed about that. Oh, we're the same. I was looking for similarities and it's why I like telling my story. I like telling people that I dropped outta school at 16.
I like telling people that, you know, I started off as a hypnotherapist. I. Because then people are like, well, if she can do it, I can do it. That's what happened to me in that space. And then the other really big thing was I did something radical. I went whitewater rafting, hate water, or at least I used to hate water.
And that was her horrendous. And then everybody kind of collected at the bottom of this cliff and started diving off the side of this cliff. I was like, I am not doing that. I am not doing that. And I was with a guy called Ghislaine Ledwell, who is the co-founder of MIND Movies, which is incidentally one of the first personal development programs I'd ever bought.
And he was like, you are in the A team and you are going off the side of that cliff. And I was like,Oh, okay. And so I lied to myself and I was like, look, just get out of the, get off the raft, climb up, and if you don't wanna go down, you can walk down if you want. There is only one way down off that cliff that is jumping off, jumping, but in order to just get myself up, that is what I needed to say to myself, which is also quite interesting.
I was trying to fall my subconscious. Mm-hmm. And to cut a long story short, I went for it. Stopped at the edge. And then as everybody's counting, like 10, 9, 8, they get to something like seven and I just run and I jump and I jump off the side of this cliff and I am screaming as I go down. I've never felt so more exhilarated in my life and in that moment of jumping off the cliff, that is when I made seven figures because I knew if I can do this, of course I can do that.
If I can do this, of course I can do that. And 18 months later I'd made 1.2 million pounds. I tripled my income.
[: [:A hundred percent we're creating disruption in the mind. And then when that transformation or when that experience is deep enough, when that the emotion is heightened enough in the same way as when, somebody experiences PTSD 'cause it's a negative, it's only happens once. Mm. But it's so powerful that they remember it.
You can also, we can also make that work in our favor, which is exactly what happened to me when I jumped off that cliff now. It doesn't always have to be as dramatic as that. I also believe in one degree a day. If I can just create like a 1%, improvement a day in 365 days, I've changed my entire life.
It's not as dramatic, it's not as sexy, but still, when you look back a year in a lifetime, took me a year to do that. Has no time at all. Mm. So both work, but it starts with deciding and then obviously I had to back it up. You know, I hired four different mentors. I spent 120,000 pounds, which I didn't have, by the way.
Everything was on payment plans. I remember everything was like, you remember telling me, I've just invested in this? Because I was looking at how am I gonna do it? I needed to, I just, being in this room. On this retreat, I'm like high ticket sales. Okay. I've not got a high ticket offer, but that feels, that feels like a smart move.
So I want somebody to teach me how to launch my high ticket offer. Oh, he sells from the stage I love. I love events and I love selling, and I think that that would be a really good, so I just started like putting together my own blueprint from all of the things that I'd heard that felt aligned to me.
And then I invested in all of the people that had the experience, more experience than me, and I said, help me. And I allowed myself to be supported, which is one of the four pillars of infinite receiving. You wanna receive infinitely, you have to allow yourself to be supported. And so I made some big, bad, bold moves, and every time I made a bold move, I had to uplevel my identity.
Hmm. Because there was no way I was not gonna pay my bills. There was no way that I was gonna default. There was no way. I was not earning, a million. And so yeah, it took me 18 months and 120,000, in investments, and I, you know, I got a 10 extra return. I made 1.2 million that year.
[:My brain is like, literally, where do I start? I, I really resonate with the taking the aligned action piece because. Even for me when I was trying to hit my first six figures, I think we worked together. Yeah. And I nearly tripled my income that year and I remember working with you. Yeah, seriously. Because I think, you know, credit my credit's due.
You were such a fantastic mentor for me back then. Honestly. You were. and I remember. You are coaching fees. And I remember I was co like didn't, I had my properties then, but I was kind of like asset rich, not cash rich. Yes. And I think I just sold one of my properties to put that money into another property and I was doing wedding planning then.
u, like back then it was like:Yeah. And honestly, Suze, I probably had the money for like one to two months maximum. and then I was like. You know what, if it goes tits up and I don't make my money back, I can dip into like the house I've just sold. I'll just have to keep some money back from that. Obviously I'm not advocating to anyone to get into debt or, you know, all of those things, but that really forced me to move in a different way.
Exactly. And I think when you are under, under pressure mm-hmm. Like at the moment I'm working with someone, and I've had like a really, really challenging. This year and last year, but I was like. If I don't get someone who holds me accountable
[: [:Mm. I love motivating people. I've got big energy. But then if you don't make that investment in yourself Yeah. You just, you just don't move in a different way.
[:I am never going to, even with the best will in the world, show up and lift as well and push myself as far as I would go. Then when I have Mark, like in my ear, like winding me up and saying things, that's what a coach a mentor does for you.
[:Yeah. Like over the last few years, you know, everyone's really aware. Like I've been on a big health journey, you know, I've had like gut issues, but just being supported by like the best practitioners mm-hmm. Has just made such a difference. Yeah. And what you say about. Being supported. And I think again, you know, there's a lot of people who watch and listen the show who are women of color.
Mm-hmm. And Asian women. It's it, you know, we are culturally conditioned. Yeah. To be like, let's just do it ourselves. Yes. Let's just be a martyr. Yes, I can do it. I'm perfect. It's all in my control. But actually, like you said, you know, if you want to infinitely receive, you have to allow support in, because otherwise it blocks abundance.
Right? Yeah. You
[:It took me a long time to. Work that out. Even things like having a cleaner and somebody to help with the kids, you know, I had that five times a week and now it three times a week, and that feels good because the kids are a little bit older. But that felt so indulgent. That was one of the best investments in myself and in my business.
I could have
[: and:Yeah. you know, I remember last year we had one of our biggest years in business. Mm. Had an incredible, incredible event. Mm. It was 200 people plus literally last year, everything I was touching was like turning to gold. I'm gonna beat my horn. I'm sorry. It was sold out like retreats. events, big launches, like big, big, big launches.
And people were like, like, how are you doing this? Mm. You know, from an Asian market as well. Yeah. Which historically gets impacted by money blocks a lot sooner. Mm-hmm. Just because of our cultural conditioning around money. this year I made a conscious decision not to do my event just because I had lots of family deaths.
I've been navigating some
[: [: [: [:Mm-hmm. So in this narrative that no one's buying, you know, the UK is like literally going down the toilet. Mm-hmm. you know. All of this stuff, right? Yeah. So for people that are like maybe like starting out or even scaling, do you think, how can you stand out now? Because it's just so different, isn't it?
Mm-hmm. To like: [:And I believe that the thing that will help you to stand out is to really understand who it is that you are and own it. Mm-hmm. It's like, know who Sean is. Know what you stand for. Know what,yeah, you care about what piss you off and really speak from that place. And I do believe in blueprints and templates, but what I say to my clients and students all of the time is that we have blueprints that work.
We've got templates that work, but what makes them pop? Where the magic is, is when you superimpose yourself onto the blueprint and onto the template. So whilst there are proven methods and tried and tested things that do still work after all of this time, like. One of those tried and tested methods is just asking for the bloody sale shock horror.
You know, if you do that, you will make sales. Like it just basic things work like that. But it is you when you are like, so everybody's business should look a little bit different. A hundred percent. Everybody's funnel should look a little bit different based on who you are. So how you stand out.
Especially now where if you go onto LinkedIn, 90% of those articles, 90% of those posts are written by ai. Agents and bots, and so there is a certain type of language that you are hearing over and over again. I made a joke. It was a joke, but honestly, if I see the word brutal in any more brutal truths, I have to let you know.
With brutal honesty. I know if you've got brutal in your headline, I know that chat GBT has given that to you. I've seen it like 70. Thousand times in the last two weeks. It, it drives me insane. But, so the more you are able to be human now in a world of automatization, this is what is going to help you stand out.
I believe, what is it? And again, it's a belief, it's not a truth with a capital T, but because of the way that the world is shifting. And so much more ai. Now being a good coach isn't enough because people are using chat GBT for their coaches and their therapists, and people say, no, no, no. It doesn't give empathy.
It's like we've got people having relationships. I know with fake AI characters don't tell me that AI does not know how to fake empathy, so. Knowing the information and being a world-class coach, that is the standard. If you are going to succeed in five years time, what is going to build your brand is your ability to create community and connection.
Because in a world where people are more disconnected and feeling lonelier than ever, if you know how to facilitate deep transformation at scale. Lasting transformation at scale. And then you can put those people in a room with like-minded individuals and you know how to create an experience that expedites, intimacy and connection.
Those people will go out and they will bring their friends. They say, you've gotta come and see Susie. You've gotta come and see Sean. You've gotta come and see this person. And then when you have the skill sets that I talked about earlier on, like understanding how to put together really incredible offers that really help people change their lives and you know, how to articulate that transformation, IE you know how to sell and you're not afraid of making your offers.
That is how you build a business and change the world at the same time. And so for me now is such an interesting time. I'm like. There's never been a better time to be coming into the industry and really honing those skills and that mastery because this industry is gonna look very, very different in five years time.
But those soft skills of connection, the importance of community, that's only gonna grow. So I'm absolutely, I don't think about it. How do I stand out? I'm like, how do we create longevity? How do we make a change? How do we really make a difference? So those are the things that I am thinking about.
[:Especially events and community. This is like community is something that, you know, we are hearing a lot right now. Mm-hmm. It's something that both me and you have been facilitating these big events. Please, please,
[:We've gone in on that and now you just hearing it more and more and more and more and more, and I'm like. This is, we're at the crest, they're trying to work it out. We've already been doing it, and now our job is to work out. How do we scale it even more with keeping, keeping quality?
[:Why do you think the industry will be in five years?
[:But when you understand premium. And not for me. I'm, I'm never gonna position my brand as luxury because that's just not, that's not my thing, but premium high ticket, that is, that's what we teach. And I think that you're just gonna see more and more people like, things like better help for therapy. I think you're gonna see that in the coaching industry.
I think you're gonna see, I think that. People are gonna understand coaching more than they've ever understood. I think there's gonna be huge opportunity, again, at the top level for executive coaches, but I think at the lower level you're gonna be seeing organizations like Better help for coaches working with all of the staff in Google.
So executive coaching still great, but you wanna be speaking with the MD. You wanna be the person that the MD speaks to, not the robot that is giving the same advice to many other people.
[: ppy place for me back in like:And I remember like a couple of years ago you did like a social media detox. Yeah. I think you do those regularly. Mm-hmm. So do you have practices, Susie, that. That you do like maybe on a weekly or daily basis? Because I think for me that something that really helps me and my clients is tuning out of the noise.
Mm-hmm. Like what you were saying earlier, getting into environments that really up level you and expand you, but on like a daily basis, I. I think I have the most impact when I actually a get off socials. I mean, I don't go on socials in the morning anyway. Yeah, I've always been quite good at that, but just I zoom out.
Mm, I do my Joe dispenser meditations. I know you went to a retreat recently and I listen to the podcast episode and when I am reading, when I'm journaling, like all of those incredible practices to, it's the same really ground into who I am, what my power is, what my purpose is, rather than. Filtering through an Instagram.
Mm-hmm. Lens. And then looking at the world through Yeah, an Instagram lens. Yeah. So what kind of things
[:Just being quiet and walking. And that again, it just opens up doors and just different thoughts and insights and I think also it just grounds you into the present moment and I think that that is very powerful. I love that.
[:Four years ago, I thought you said you had four divorces. Then I was like, what? Sorry. When did this happen?and I think there's something to be said about obviously women in their thirties, forties, fifties. Mm-hmm. We normally navigating a lot. Mm-hmm.
[: [:Just so many journeys that we go on. Mm-hmm. How did you. Continue to be devoted to your mission, and maybe devotion's the wrong word, committed maybe in that sense. Around that time. And how did you, because I think what, what happens is if we are navigating something behind the scenes mm-hmm. And it's really traumatic or it's really difficult mm-hmm.
Like, you know, over the last couple of months I've been navigating like literally three family deaths. Mm-hmm. And two very close family deaths, plus the health staff. plus I ended up in hospital. Mm-hmm. Last year was sepsis. Wow. Yeah. I've been through it. I've been through it. Not many people know that actually, I've just.
five days before Christmas in:and I, and I had my event in Feb, like the first weekend of February. And I was literally like in January, once I've been released, 'cause I've been put on such strong medication, I was literally dying. Mm. Like dying. I couldn't work. I was literally dying. But I was like, you know what, I've gotta push through, gotta get these ticket sales in.
I've gotta. I've gotta practice and we had our most successful event ever. It was wild, like it was in terms of people that attended the experience, they had people rebooking, but also my, it impacted my launch, but I re, I remember like the end of last year when I was navigating those situations. You know you do sometimes.
It depends who you are. For me personally, I lost a bit of confidence When you are navigating big stuff and you can't just be like online, oh, I'm navigating a divorce, or This is happening or this is happening, I nearly died. So how can we keep that kind of try and keep some sort of. Normality, I guess, in our business.
How can we show up? Like what did that look like for you?
[:And then, When I say it's always about me, there is so much of my life that I have never shared online because I talk about the industry or I will talk about, I. I'm not necessarily sharing all of my life. So it, which is interesting because people feel like they do know everything about me because I come across unfiltered and I am unfiltered, but I'm still really sharing from is this relevant to you?
You know? Yeah. And so I think that that's your business is, is an extension of you, but it's not all of you. So you don't need to give all of yourself to the business. So that's the first thing with my separation specifically, I. I gave myself permission to, I wasn't, and it's weird because I actually think that that year we made 2.2 million, so we made more money even though we, I didn't launch as much, I.
I told my client what was happening. Mm. Because it felt important. Like, I don't know how I'm gonna be and this is everything that I'm holding.and I remember, this again, event launches. I remember at my event, which I'd done online, I remember saying. To everybody. This is what I was selling, something called the Freedom Experience, and I said, I cannot sell this to you without letting you know that my husband and I have decided that we no longer want to be together.
And when you ask like, how do you also stay focused on the mission of committed to the mission, I think one of the things that has been true for us and. I mean, co-parenting, separating new partners, kids. It is a lot, lot. And especially in those first two years, everything is new. Mm. Everything is challenging.
So I don't wanna paint a picture of Oh, everything's amazing and we are just best friends 'cause we are not. Yeah. but we do have a healthy respect for each other and we are committed to being good co-parents. However, one of the things I think was really, really helpful is that we never had to argue about money.
Mm-hmm. Now, I do know some very successful women who were taken to the cleaners by their partners. So there's something in the character of my ex that also has to be acknowledged, but. For me, it became even more important to help women be empowered financially so that they could make the choice about whether they wanted to stay in their marriage or in their partnership, or whether they wanted to go.
I was able to choose based on what was. True in my heart, not based on what I could afford. And still, even now, there are so many women who are trapped in relationships because, and you will see it a lot in your culture.
[: [:This is what we teach people how to live your dream and make good money. You know, it's where your profits and your passion collides. Mm-hmm. Like
[:Literally like is all divorced women actually. And the key story for all of them. I remember one lady, she was like literally overnight I was like, homeless, you know, had no money. And I just think, I think that's, that was, that event was like five years ago, six, maybe 6, 6, 7 years ago. I think that was the moment, like something switched in my mind where I was like.
I can never be reliant on a man for money. Mm. Like I love an adored aav. We are in just such a beautiful marriage. But I was like, it can never be a point where, you know, like if we have to split up like. You know, I'm out, I'm out on the, on the streets, or I'm financially impacted. And so many women, you're so right.
Like do stay in those marriages. Yeah. Because of money, which is just wild. Mm-hmm. So before we wrap up, Susie, one, one final question.what advice would you like to give to someone who's watching or listening? And just can't see their potential and they're just being plagued by the negative thoughts.
Like, I'm not good enough. I'm not good at content. I'm too old. Like, there's so many things to, you know, blocks for women that come up, especially in this era, I feel. What would you like to share as you leave?
[:What I have learned over the years, and I've now worked with hundreds of people very closely, and then thousands of people at a distance. My job in life. Is to move through life, seeing people in their greatness. It is what one of the things that makes me an a, a world class coach, like I can see it. Mm-hmm.
I remember when we first worked together and you first started with aac, I was like, this is your thing. Yeah. This is the thing. There's going to put, I could, I could absolutely just, I could see it all, and that that is my job. What I know is that. Even though it is amazing to have somebody who sees your light and sees your potential and speaks into your greatness until you decide
you will not do the work. So one of the things, and when I say worthy is a decision, not a feeling, I, I want you to really take that on board. You get to decide. And I also want you to know that every single one of us was born worthy. Every single baby that is born into this universe is born worthy. Now, whether they know that or not is because of their caregivers.
Mm. And what they learn and how love is given and withdrawn, and what you are told about yourself. But if you were to just imagine going all of the way back to the beginning before you'd made a single mistake, before anybody had told you anything about who you were, you were born worthy. Your job is to remember that and allow everything else to be a lesson.
Allow everything else to be a lesson. It's not the truth. It is just a lesson. And from that place of remembering that you were born worthy, you get to decide what the fuck you want to do from today. And that should, and I very rarely use the word should, but that should involve some personal development work to help you let go of all of the things that have been holding you back.
That should be using a mentor. And I say using versus investing because some people just aren't in the position to invest, but allow this podcast to be mentorship for you.
[: [:And start to use all of those things as a permission slip for you doing something radical, something outrageous, or even just taking one baby step away from where you are right now. But unfortunately, it comes down to you deciding siding. Nobody. It's like when it is, like when you are like. How do I look?
And you hate your dress and somebody says, oh my God, you look amazing. And you're like, oh yeah, I think I'm gonna change anyway. You have to decide it. Yeah. So here's, if you are waiting to decide, here's your permission slip right now. I don't care how many times you fucked up, how many terrible things that you said, you know, I went to visit my mom once.
I want you to remember that story and I'm still fucking worthy. And so are you.
[: [:Suzy ashworth.com is the website. And yeah, feel free to slide into my dms if you've got any questions. yeah, you want any help? Amazing. Thank you so much, Susie. Thank you.
